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10 Tips for Avoiding Holiday Burnout

December 9, 2010 By Deb Chitwood 30 Comments

Previous article: How to Teach Your Child to Say Thank You for Holiday Presents
Next article: Activity of the Week – December Poetry Basket and Montessori-Inspired Christmas Activities

I love Chevy Chase’s Clark Griswold in National Lampoon’s Christmas Vacation as the perfect example of good holiday intentions gone awry. Wanting the perfect family experience is wonderful. But … whether you’re wanting a holiday season filled with Santa and reindeer fun or one filled with meaningful religious activities, burnout can become a problem regardless of your best intentions.

10 Tips for Avoiding Holiday Burnout

I have a post with hundreds of December holiday activities for kids. You’ll find links to many, many wonderful resources both secular and religious that can be used for daily activities throughout December. There are way more activities than any family could possibly do. So, how do you choose what to do? And, what do you do if you’re already starting to feel holiday burnout?

I was lucky to grow up in a very laid-back family. Here are some tips I learned from my family and other tips I discovered through raising my own children that help me avoid holiday burnout:

1. Don’t worry about Christmas cards.

Among my brothers and sisters, aunts and uncles, some send out Christmas cards and others don’t. We all enjoy receiving Christmas cards and newsletters, but we don’t worry about who sends or doesn’t send Christmas cards. We’re loved just as much either way.

I like to send Christmas cards, although I mainly send them to relatives. I don’t have a huge Christmas card list. I don’t worry about how early or late I send the cards. Sometimes, I send them after Christmas. My family enjoys Christmas newsletters, and I enjoy using digital scrapbooking to create one. But I wait until I feel inspired to create a newsletter. For many years when Will and Christina were growing up, we went to the JCPenney photo studio in September for a family photo (along with Will and Christina’s “school photos”). At the same time, we ordered photo greeting cards. And those were our Christmas cards.

UPDATE 12/14: I haven’t sent Christmas cards to relatives for the last couple of years. I finally went to writing a digital Christmas newsletter and emailing it to my relatives in a group email. Last year, when my granddaughter was a newborn, a Christmas newsletter didn’t even get sent. My family still loves me.

2. Enlist your kids’ help whenever possible.

It makes the whole holiday more special and less stressful when everyone’s involved. To me, baking Christmas cookies is much more fun with my kids, a Christmas meal is more enjoyable when we’re working together in the kitchen, and decorating is better without a doubt when done as a family activity.

I remember family gatherings growing up as being a stress-free time of daughters and daughters-in-law bringing dishes for the family gatherings and mothers and those same daughters and daughters-in-law working together to create a feast.

As far as decorating is concerned, I love to look at those houses that are perfectly and elaborately decorated for Christmas. But I’m not a decorator, so I tend to have just a tree and a few nice decorations. It wasn’t until my son, Will, decided to put garland and lights on our deck railings and indoors on our stair railings that our house had that truly magical Christmas look.

Will always loved Home Depot and enjoyed shopping there for garland and the decorations needed to work his magic. Then he and Christina would work outdoors in the coldest weather happily decorating for Christmas. Their help always made Christmas less stressful.

3. Don’t worry about having the best decorations.

As I said, I’m not a decorator. Now that my children are grown, we might all spend Thanksgiving in San Diego. If that happens, we miss out on our Thanksgiving decorating-the-tree tradition. And then I’ll be putting up decorations myself later on.

As lovely as the decorations are when Will and Christina do them, I don’t worry about re-creating Will and Christina’s Christmas décor. I put up a tree and a few simple decorations. I make sure the house looks pretty and Christmassy, but that’s it. The garlands stay in storage. If I feel like putting them up some year I will … may be when I have grandkids … or not. The point is that it really doesn’t matter if the decorations are perfect every year … or ever.

Update for 2015: Now that I have a 2-year-old granddaughter, I like to put up my Christmas decorations earlier. Zoey only has a limited amount of time to enjoy them at my house, so I’ll be putting up Christmas decorations (with the help of my kids) after November 11 but before Thanksgiving. The Christmas season seems to pass too quickly, so I think this will be a nice change and even less stress over Thanksgiving weekend! 🙂

4. Decide which traditions are essential, and don’t worry about the rest.

When Will and Christina were growing up, our traditions for Thanksgiving Day, Christmas Eve, and Christmas Day were fairly uniform. I tried to keep those no matter what. All the other wonderful pre-Christmas and Christmas activities we could choose from varied a little or a lot from year to year.

The fact that we could vary our Advent activities gave us the ability to enjoy more activities over a few years than we probably would have otherwise. It also helped me enjoy the holidays more. I didn’t have so many shoulds – just things I loved doing with my family. And we could choose what we wanted to do each year. If there’s something you’d like to do but don’t have the time or energy for this year, it’s fine to save it until next year.

5. Choose some activities that are fun and relaxing for you that will create wonderful memories for your family.

For us, reading together and watching movies together were always some of our very favorite activities. To read a Christmas book each day was simply a fun and relaxing activity for me. So it was easy for me to read a Christmas book each day in December. I’m not a great gift wrapper, so I didn’t wrap the books. Some parents like to do that – and it’s a lovely tradition. But for me, that would have added stress.

We could easily watch lots of Christmas movies throughout the holiday season. That again, was fun and relaxing. At the same time, it created so many happy memories and a wonderful Christmas tradition. No stress, only happy times.

We also enjoyed an Advent wreath and calendar. I love the idea of handmade ones, but we purchased ours together … and that worked for us. It still felt like we experienced the beauty of Advent and Christmas through our activities without worrying about having the perfect activity. [I’ll write more about our Christmas traditions next Tuesday.]

6. If you’re planning to buy gifts but find crowds stressful, shop online.

I don’t buy a lot of Christmas gifts. My family had a tradition of drawing names so that gifts weren’t expected for everyone. Now, I do most of my shopping online. When Will and Christina were growing up, there wasn’t an online, so I did a lot of shopping through catalogs like my mother always did.

When Will and Christina were growing up, it was fun to go Christmas shopping together … so we always did some of that. I still enjoy it when we get together, but I really don’t like to shop alone. If Terry wants to go shopping with me, we’ll go and enjoy an outing. Otherwise, I happily do my shopping online.

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7. Find your own rhythm with activities like shopping, card sending, and baking.

I’m never the first one finished sending Christmas cards, buying gifts, or baking Christmas goodies. If you enjoy Christmas more by having everything completed early, then that’s what you should do. It’ll be less stressful for you.

But if you’re like me, you have to be surrounded with the Christmas season for awhile before you feel ready. And that’s alright, too. And, sometimes, things just don’t get done.

There were years when we said after Christmas, “Gee, I guess we didn’t make our pressed cookies this year. Maybe we can make them for Valentine’s Day.” I don’t think it made Christmas any less special – and it was certainly more special to not be stressed out over Christmas baking. Our Christmas fudge was always our favorite Christmas goodie anyway, and that did get made.

8. Don’t worry if your Christmas schedule doesn’t follow the calendar.

We loved using an Advent calendar but were sometimes at a big skating competition in early December. Then we missed days of opening our Advent calendar doors while we were at the competition and opened a number of doors when we returned home. We might celebrate St. Nicholas Day on the 10th of December and just talk about the fact that St. Nicholas Day was on December 6. Surprisingly, changing our calendar didn’t make the events less special.

For Will’s and Christina’s first Christmas with their spouses last year, we found it was easiest to have Christina and her husband, Tom, spend Christmas with Tom’s family in England and come to Colorado for the week after Christmas through the beginning of the New Year.

So Will and his wife, Chea, visited Chea’s family in North Carolina over Christmas, too. Then they arrived in Colorado about the same time as Christina and Tom. We just set a late Christmas Day and celebrated as if it were Christmas Eve on the 28th and Christmas Day on the 29th. We had a very special “Christmas” and then celebrated New Year’s Eve and New Year’s Day together.

9. If you feel overwhelmed or don’t have enough time for a tradition, discuss it with your family.

You’ll probably be surprised at how accommodating your family can be. If I didn’t have the time or energy for an activity we had done before, we just had a family discussion. Will and Christina usually said it was fine with them to skip it that year. When we did the activity again another year, we all appreciated it more.

10. Take time for yourself.

I wrote in Take a 30-Minute or 5-Minute Me-Break about finding ways to take time to rejuvenate yourself. I think that’s more important during the holiday season than ever. And exercise will help you feel better, too. I always find I feel happiest, healthiest, and sleep best by keeping my normal exercise routine no matter how busy I am.

So. It’s okay to step back. Find your rhythm. Make whatever changes you need to feel happiness rather than stress this holiday season.

Do you have a favorite way to help reduce stress over the holidays?

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Previous article: How to Teach Your Child to Say Thank You for Holiday Presents
Next article: Activity of the Week – December Poetry Basket and Montessori-Inspired Christmas Activities

Filed Under: Finding Balance, Holidays and Celebrations Tagged With: avoiding holiday burnout, Clark Griswold, holiday burnout, National Lampoon's Christmas Vacation

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  1. Jackie says

    December 9, 2010 at 12:47 pm

    great ideas. I tend to overschedule during this time of the year and that’s not good for me… or my kids! I think being willing to say, “no”…even to good things is beneficial during this season too. I decided we couldn’t go to 2 places on Christmas day (+ our house) so we only see 1 side of the family on Christmas day. It allows us to have more time to enjoy our Christmas too.

    Reply
    • Deb Chitwood says

      December 9, 2010 at 3:01 pm

      Thanks, Jackie! We had to do something similar. We live too far from our families to go there for the Christmas Day gathering, so we have a tradition of just getting together at other times during the year. As great as the big family gatherings are, it’s really helped us have a calm and happy Christmas Eve and Christmas Day.

      Reply
  2. Unplanned Cooking says

    December 10, 2010 at 6:34 am

    Great post! Holidays are so busy for us because all 3 of our kids were born within 2 weeks of Christmas :).

    Reply
    • Deb Chitwood says

      December 10, 2010 at 1:39 pm

      Thanks! And wow – that would put a whole new perspective on the Christmas season!

      Reply
  3. JDaniel4's Mom says

    December 10, 2010 at 7:12 am

    I love the list of ideas. I love the idea of enjoying and doing what you can.

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    • Deb Chitwood says

      December 10, 2010 at 1:41 pm

      Thanks so much! I love Christmas, and I’m really grateful I grew up surrounded by ways for me to truly enjoy it!

      Reply
  4. Lalas Pequenos says

    December 10, 2010 at 7:52 am

    I agree – I always find myself postponing everything till the last second just because life gets in the way. I used to feel so bad about. I finally learned to just let it go 🙂

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    • Deb Chitwood says

      December 10, 2010 at 1:44 pm

      Thanks! It’s amazing how much it helps to just acknowledge our personal tendencies and preferences and accept them!

      Reply
  5. laughwithusblog says

    December 10, 2010 at 10:15 am

    Great tips! We haven’t even pulled out the decorations yet. This is such a busy time of year. My husband’s final is Monday so life begins again. We’ll have our home decorating party then. Who cares that we’re late! I’m a Momlooper today! 😉

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    • Deb Chitwood says

      December 10, 2010 at 1:47 pm

      Thanks so much! That’s so true about school – Christmas always seemed to start after finals during those years for me, too! How wonderful to have a home decorating party – and great way to approach it!

      Reply
  6. Palmy says

    December 10, 2010 at 2:08 pm

    There is a new appointment on my blog,Love of Learning, this time about use and misuse of textbook. Do you want take part in?

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    • Deb Chitwood says

      December 10, 2010 at 4:31 pm

      Thanks, I’ll check it out!

      Reply
  7. Sheila says

    December 10, 2010 at 3:04 pm

    Hi Deb, Such great practical advice! Advent should be a time to wonder, not to be stressed, but so often we put pressure on ourselves to make everything perfect. Thanks for sharing!

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    • Deb Chitwood says

      December 10, 2010 at 4:37 pm

      Thanks for your kind comment, Sheila! And what a beautiful phrase – “time to wonder.” I love to see the spread of Godly Play – truly giving children and adults time to wonder.

      Reply
  8. XmasDolly says

    December 10, 2010 at 8:46 pm

    Hey Ho it’s me just returning the follow here. Nice to meet you. Thanks for stopping by. I must go browse now. Nice blog. Have a great weekend.

    Reply
    • Deb Chitwood says

      December 11, 2010 at 12:40 am

      Thanks so much for following me here as well! It’s great to meet you! I hope you have a wonderful weekend, too!

      Reply
  9. Mika says

    December 11, 2010 at 8:12 am

    Thanks for following! I’m now following you back!
    Mika
    http://www.mikaspantry.blogspot.com

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    • Deb Chitwood says

      December 12, 2010 at 9:02 pm

      Thanks, Mika! Have a great holiday season!

      Reply
  10. Kim says

    December 11, 2010 at 11:23 pm

    Our best tradition, IMO, is just watching holiday movies with the tree lit. So perfect and relaxing!

    Thanks for sharing your great tips!

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    • Deb Chitwood says

      December 12, 2010 at 3:34 pm

      Thanks, Kim! I LOVE doing that, too!

      Reply
  11. Phyllis says

    December 12, 2010 at 8:52 am

    I have an award for you over at my blog.
    http://homeschooljournal-bergblog.blogspot.com/2010/12/versatile-blogger-award-from-homeschool.html

    Reply
    • Deb Chitwood says

      December 12, 2010 at 3:38 pm

      Thank you SO MUCH, Phyllis! I’m honored and very grateful!

      Reply
  12. Jennifer says

    December 12, 2010 at 11:11 am

    Great tips! I’m already feeling burned out and I haven’t done much this year yet! LOL!

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    • Deb Chitwood says

      December 12, 2010 at 4:01 pm

      Thanks, Jennifer! It’s easy to have that happen! I hope you find tips in the post, comments, or Blog Frog discussion that help you truly enjoy the holidays.

      Reply
  13. Terra says

    December 12, 2010 at 1:28 pm

    Hello from Blog Frog!
    Love this post!!! People make themselves soooo stressed during the holidays, when it is supposed to be fun. My husband and I have had to celebrate Christmas alone for several years, because of where we live. We have really found ways to enjoy, relax, and still celebrate and bake lots:-)
    Happy Holidays and Merry Christmas!

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    • Deb Chitwood says

      December 12, 2010 at 4:04 pm

      Thanks, Terra! That happened with us, too. By living too far away to attend the large Christmas Day family gatherings, we developed a lot of relaxing yet fun traditions with our immediate family.

      Reply
  14. Jen says

    December 17, 2010 at 4:39 am

    This is a great list of reminders! We have had our tree up, but only have a few ornaments on it and I think I am going to keep it that way! So far none of the kids have asked why we haven’t gotten any of the other ornaments out so I think I am going to leave it as is 🙂 Merry Christmas!

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    • Deb Chitwood says

      December 18, 2010 at 2:02 am

      Thanks, Jen! It’s interesting that our children are typically happy with Christmas when we’re happy – even if we’re not doing as many Christmas activities as we think we “should.” Merry Christmas to you, too!

      Reply
  15. Gaye says

    December 3, 2012 at 5:55 pm

    I really love this post! This is the way I try to live during the holidays (with a reasonable amount of success!). You have presented your approach and ideas so beautifully and reinforced my commitment to staying sane and healthy and enjoying my family during the holidays.

    Thanks so much,
    Gaye

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    • Deb says

      December 10, 2012 at 5:55 pm

      Thanks so much for your kind comment, Gaye! I think we definitely feel the same way about enjoying the holidays and living as sanely as possible!

      Reply

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